Saturday, September 09, 2006

Update on My Dear Friend

I spoke with my friend this morning. She's home from the hospital. The wonderful hospice people got her a hospital bed that's far more comfortable than her regular bed. They and her ex are also doing everything they can to make her comfortable. She doesn't know how long she has, but she's intent on tying up loose ends with her family and friends and on coming to peace with her circumstances.

I cherish every moment of every phone call with her knowing that each call could be our last. There are still awkward moments of silence and fumbling attempts to fill them. But I cherish even these, for the day may be fast approaching when the silence will be forever, and there will be nothing I can do to fill it.


Jess said...

Just be sure she knows you are thinking of her every second and you are sending love her way. I know the last few weeks of my mother's life, we went at it all the time because of my illnes, but she knew everday how much I loved and appreciated her and the help she was giving me. So when she was taken unexpectedly, the way she was, nothing was left undone so to speak. As you know I was having a hard time with the suffocation I was feeling but I never for one second stopped telling her how much I loved her. That to me is so important, that the people in your life know how they affect you daily so that when the inevitable comes you are okay with being left and having no loose things you could have done or said. I'll send my good thoughts that she not suffer with whatever it is she has to go through. Talk to you soon.

Nagarjuna said...

I appreciate your kindness, Jess, along with the wisdom you've acquired the hard way.